I’ve Been Dreaming Some Big Dreams

“All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue it.”

-Walt Disney

I’ve been pretty quiet on the blog lately and there’s a really good reason. I’ve been keeping a secret and it’s hard to share your heart when you are holding things back. So friend, lean in…let me tell you some stories.


When I was a kid in school all my report cards came back, “Great student, but she Talks a lot”. It didn’t matter where I was moved in class I made friends everywhere. And then there was one time when I was technically an adult and I was at a store with one of my friends and I saw someone I knew so I stopped and chatted and then kept going. My friend chuckled and said, “You know everyone.” At that point I just assumed it was because I grew up in the area and it’s a small town. But that thought process changed when the same thing happened here in Texas, we hadn’t been here that long. So I think that debunked that theory and it had me thinking….I am a pretty friendly person, I enjoy making new friends, and keeping them and I don’t think I’ve ever met a stranger.

So the end of 2017 had me thinking…If I could do anything, dream big dreams, and have fun…what would I do?

Talk, and make new friends. Ok, well what does that look like…Blogging, I’ve gotten to talk and meet lots of new people. I love social media and have made some super awesome instagram friends. 

So what’s next?!



I am thrilled to announce the launch of my podcast…



My favorite time of the week is the time I get to sit with my friends over coffee, wine, margaritas….really any beverage will do, the company is what matters.

I love the time when I get to sit and listen, to encourage and build one another up. To hear about what they are doing in their lives, what happened in the past and how they are growing in the Lord in it. I want to hear it all. I want to be their cheerleader and there are times when I need a good cheerleader! So here is where IT’S TIME FOR COFFEE came in, I want to do this with new and old friends! I have already had the awesome opportunity of meeting new people that have changed my perspective. I hope that you will join me for the exciting launch of my Podcast, Monday April 2nd.. which just happens to be my birthday too!! But really it’s just the first monday of the month! I am so excited to share this with you! I have high hopes for this new adventure of mine and I cannot wait to introduce you to some new friends!

How I battle Mom Guilt

I think most moms struggle with that little feeling of guilt. Some may feel it when they are working, others while they are working out, or maybe when you are treating yourself to a girls night … or just when sitting in your car before going in. Ya know, its just so quiet in the car, you’re alone, so peaceful, and you know that as soon as you walk in the door the chaos is gonna hit you upside the head. I don’t think “Mom Guilt” is a totally bad thing. I think it can be used a tool in our lives, like a measuring stick instead of a bat that we use to beat ourselves up.

Here are somethings I tend to beat myself up about:

My temper = Mom Guilt

The baseball bat tells me no other mom loses their temper. All the other moms are sweet and well spoken.

Time away from my kids = Mom Guilt

The baseball bat reminds me that in order for me to leave them I have to ask someone else to step in. And this means “inconveniencing” my friends and family, and failing my kids.

My phone = Mom Guilt

Here the baseball bat tells me that other kids are better, smarter, and funnier than mine. Along with the fact that I can easily just swipe right out of reality on any of these social platforms and forget about needing to make dinner.

So obviously the baseball bat is not my friend. It does not build me up. It does not help me. The bat hurts me, and it actually makes me a worse mom, and a lesser version of myself.

If I were to take a measuring stick to these areas of guilt instead I would get this…

My Temper: I know for a fact other moms lose their tempers. I know that I am working on mine…Thanks counseling! I know that I am quick to ask for forgiveness and that my kids often don’t even remember the last time I yelled…I mean asked them to clean their ever loving rooms.

Time Away from my kids: This one is tough for me. I really do hate asking others to step in and watch my kids but you know what?! Jesse and I just got back from a trip yesterday and the kids were gone with friends all weekend and they had the best time. I don’t think they missed us at all! And the best part was the hugs, smiles and kisses we got when we picked them up. Also, the fact that Jesse and I got 3 nights away was magical!

My phone: So I know that I am on it too much. In fact just last night Zeke totally called me out. We finished a movie and I immediately grabbed it, he noticed and said just that. So this is me measuring the fact that, yes, I am on it too much and need to make some changes.

So friends, lets put down our bats and take a step back. We cannot be the best versions of ourselves if we are bloodied and bruised. We can, however, step back and measure ourselves not against one another but measuring ourselves against the moms we want to be. No shame, no guilt just trying everyday to press on and be the best for those we love!

Being alone with this guy helps me to refocus so I can be better for him, me and the three we left at home!

Happy New Year 2018


I cannot wait to see what 2018 and the Lord have in store for me, my family and here on my little corner of the internet! I have some big goals and a road map in place to get me there, now I need to be brave enough to take the necessary steps.

2017 was a fun year in our house:

Jesse and I went skydiving for my birthday

We went to Disneyland for spring break and got to visit our California family

Tent Camped and the quickly upgraded our tent to “Poppy” Pop-Up Camper

I went to RISE with my Cousin Melissa, and saw my hero Rachel Hollis

Got a matching tattoo with Melissa

Jesse and I ran away to Disney World ALONE

Zoe got Sister Locs and all my hair woes are now GONE

My sister Michelle visited before moving to Germany

DISNEY WORLD as a family, where we basically moved there

Visited the Wizarding World of Harry Potter with the kids!

Loved all things Summer: swimming, Schlitterbahn, TBARMcamps, beach trip, and lake trip

I started blogging more

We hung out with friends, and really dove into our community

We dated more and communicated better

Built furniture and rearranged our house

Wore matching Christmas Jammies

And rested like it was our J-O-B

So here are some of my resolutions, goals, oh I don’t know what to call them but here is what I am striving for in 2018:

Do my 5 minute journal EVERYDAY

Drink more water than coffee

Read my Bible daily

Write more

Be Present with my fam = less time scrolling on my phone

Slow to anger and Quick to Love

To work out because I am ABLE to move my body and because I enjoy it

I find that having something to narrow your focus, to hone in on improving yourself, you need a very specific idea. No fluff around it or extra stuff to get caught up in. This year I picked a word that I could focus on. A single word that will help me remember who I want to be and where I want 2018 so lead me. My word for the year is COURAGE. I want to stop worrying about what others think of me and that takes Courage. I want to speak to women and share what the Lord has done and that takes Courage. I want to love my kids and husband with all that I am even when I feel like I have nothing left to give, and for me, you guessed it takes Courage. So this year that’s what I’ll be focusing on being brave, and courageous!

What about you? What are your goals? Do you have a word? Or a focus? I want to hear it! Let’s keep each other accountable this year!

Christmas Traditions according to the Tapley Family

Jesse and I each grew up in a home where the holidays were on FULL display, I’m talking christmas towels in the bathroom, pictures removed from the wall to be replaced by christmas cross stitching, throw pillows switched out and little christmas knick knacks on every available surface. So when Jesse and I got married we agreed to a small/ limited decoration style but rich with tradition. That has been our style until this year. I can now feel the tides changing as Zoe gets more and more into the spirit of Christmas, which if I am honest, makes me pretty excited!

So here are a few of my favorite traditions that we have…

The Elf on the Shelf. Our elf’s name is Elvis. He shows up every Thanksgiving night and sticks around till Christmas Eve. He’s not as mischievous as he once was, because the bigger the kids get (the boys know we move him) the less fun it is…

Christmas Cookies. DUH! If you don’t make cookies is it even Christmas??

Star Wars. Three years ago the boys convinced us to watch the entire Star Wars Saga over Christmas Break. The newest movie was getting ready to release so we thought it was a great idea. That great idea morphed into one of their favorite traditions: every year, every movie. This year we had to start before Thanksgiving so that we could get them all in before the latest episode came out in theatres. Before you know it, we will be watching them in January just to prepare for the next year! But this has been fun and the boys really enjoy it. If I am completely honest, I spend a lot of this time on my phone, reading, or writing. img_7683

Christmas Classics. We also watch Elf, Home Alone, and Charlie Brown every year too. It sounds like we spend a lot of time in front of the TV, which I guess is kind of true. But honestly I don’t think I’ll ever feel bad about being snuggled up with my crew sipping hot chocolate and coffees while watching these classic films.

Family Ornaments. Each year I pick out a new family ornament that shows some sort of significance to our year. This year I picked a Mickey Mouse one for the year of all things Disney. Our last year in Alaska is a beautiful snowy angel, the year we decided to adopt is a clay Africa. It’s fun to see these and see where we’ve been and how we’ve changed.

Stance Socks. I don’t know that I have shared how much my husband loves socks…but he does. But not just any socks, Stance socks. He has made the tradition where every year we each get a new pair of sock for Christmas. They don’t necessarily match, but all that matters is that we get a picture each year with our new socks on.img_2245

Now here are a couple of our FAILED traditions:

Three gifts each. We tried to give the kids only three gifts each year, because that’s what Jesus got at “the first Christmas.” Jesse got this idea from his cousin when he lived with them in California. I loved the idea until it got really difficult! I would get them three presents and the stuff their stockings with all the other random stuff that I wanted to give them. So now while we don’t go crazy, we just can’t be limited to only three gifts… sorry Jesus.

Gingerbread Houses. For the life of us we cannot build a gingerbread house that stands! We have only tried a handful of times but until THIS YEAR…not one has stood through the night. Whether its poor craftsmanship or our dog that jumped ON TOP OF THE COUNTER to eat it, its just got a tradition that lasted in our home.

My favorite part of this crazy busy season is the time we get to sit and laugh with our kids. Snuggled up on the couch, watching any of the movies and just being with them. Soon this will all change, new people will be invited in, they will not want to snuggle me, they may even go to different homes! But this time with them will not have been wasted.

Merry Christmas my Friends!! 

I hope you are able to take a deep breathe, enjoy this season, eat that cookie, laugh a little harder, and be merry! Let me know some of your favorite traditions or some that you have had that failed!!


Disney World in a Nut Shell

Oh my goodness, I feel like I haven’t sat behind my computer in ages. Mostly because I haven’t! We got home on last Monday from a ten day family vacation to the Most Magical Place on Earth, DISNEY WORLD.

We met ALL the Princesses. Merida was one of my favorites

I have decided that I am no better than a child while walking down Main Street USA gazing up at Cinderella’s castle with stars in my eyes. You can just feel the joy, the magic, and the happiness. It just makes me smile, and to experience it this time with all three of our kids just added to the experience. I have a little video of the kids walking around the corner and seeing the castle for the first time and Zoe’s mouth literally falls open. It was so much fun! I wanted to use this post to share just a few of our favorite things about this trip:     **In no particular order!**

Disney World 2017

  1. We tried to set the kids up for the character interactions as best we could. We used a really neat Disney Animated Encyclopedia and had the characters sign their page, but on each page before we left we wrote down questions for the kids to ask the characters. We wanted to keep the experience more than just an autograph and a photo. I was really proud and excited when the boys would ask the questions and do their best to keep the conversation going. One of my favorites was when Titus asked Mickey, “When are you going to propose to Minnie?!” then he followed it with, “If you don’t she’s going to find another mouse.” Mickey made it so much fun and we all giggled about it the rest of the day.
  2. Bippity Boppity Boutique, somehow Zoe found out about this on YouTube Kids. We planned this to be her birthday present and she was so excited. It also worked at that when we scheduled the appointment (last minute… because it was on me to set this up, not Jesse) there was availability at the Castle. So in we go; she changes into a beautiful little gown and I cry because I’m seeing this girl grow up before my very eyes. I know that some day soon I’ll be helping her into a wedding gown and my heart just cannot handle that! Then she gets hair and makeup and her nails painted and she’s just soaking it all up and loving every minute. I loved this time alone with her because I was able to take a step back and really see her. My beautiful little girl who has overcome so much. She’s a fighter with the glitz and glamour of a princess.

  3. One day while we were walking around Jesse said, “I am going to thank or say hi to every cast member (the people who work for Disney) by name.” So he did, and the boys and I followed suit. It was so funny to hear Zeke yell, “Thanks Bob” randomly while we were in line or after we were handed food. I hope it helped our boys to overcome some fear of talking to adults and I really hope that it gave the Cast Members a little bit of a smile.
  4. As we walked into the Magic Kingdom one day, a Cast Member walked up to Zoe (who was wearing a her princess dress) and asked for her autograph. She signed her name and then curtseyed. It was SO cute!
  5. One of my favorite characters to meet was Chewbacca. We took some pictures and he was observant and noticed Jesse and me signing to Zoe. He looked to Jesse and asked *In sign language* if she was deaf. Jesse responded Yes, and then Chewbacca asked Zoe what her name was. She was so shocked to see him signing she just smiled SO SO big. It was so neat and Jesse caught it all on video. Here’s the Link Chewy Signing.

    He gives the best hugs!!

  6. Titus is by far our most timid kid when it comes to rides. He straight up jumped off of one in DisneyLand and didn’t even care! So when it came to some of the big rides, like Expedition Everest he was nervous. In just a casual conversation he mentioned being nervous to a cast member and she said, “Go try, if you do it I’ll get you a Mickey Ice Cream bar.” That ice cream bar gave him the courage he needed and he did it!! He went to her and she paid up, she was so excited with him and it was just so neat to see her invested with him.

We ate pizza while sitting in the grass at our hotel. We laughed over silly jokes that weren’t really funny. We played, we walked A LOT, and we were together non-stop. We watched our boys interpret for their sister, and watched their eyes light up during the fireworks. But that doesn’t mean it was always magical; I called one child a snotty brat, two of our kids had a fist fight in line, and one of them was the maddest princess of all time. Ten days was a long time to be gone but I think it was so good for us to be in “the bubble” with each other. The outside world didn’t matter. It was just us five with some Princesses, some Jedi’s and a Mouse.

A dream come true! MOANA!!!!