SHOWNOTES 010 Jesse Tapley

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I am SO excited to introduce you to my very best friend in all of the world….Mr Jesse Tapley!

Jesse is my husband and he’s just the best, he has the prettiest blue eyes I’ve ever seen, makes me laugh constantly, and is always pushing me to be better. I am so excited for you to listen to this episode. Jesse shares a little bit about our family, his favorite TV shows and what its like to be friends with other dudes.

Adjust your volume accordingly…I have a loud laugh.

See! Both Nebulas are blue and have after market parts. His jeep is one of his big hobbies lately!

Jesse and I love to whine down at night with some solid TV shows for example… THE NEW GIRL – THE OFFICE and PARKS AND REC. I just spent WAY too much time looking for a gif of Jessica Day but that just reminded me how similar we are and now I am just going to skip that!

So, if you can’t tell by his jeeps name Jesse (and our boys) LOVE the Marvel Cinematic Universe, which is Iron Man, Captain America, Thor…all of The Avenger Movies and Jesse told us how they watched them in order this year so if that interests you here is the order in which they watched it…. How to watch every Marvel Movie in the right order!

One of my favorite things that Jesse said was how much he values our date days. Whatever they look like I know that he values them, and that has been a struggle with me in this season of building and growing because I haven’t been placing my value there with him. So we got a little chance to talk about valuing seasons and how those seasons change so rapidly. Which is where this Andy Bernard quote from THE OFFICE comes in

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“I wish there was a way to know you’re in the good ole days before you actually left them.” I think I long for the next stage in life…whatever it may be so much that I tend to miss the good ole days right in front of me.

Links/ Recommendations

This is Jesse’s all time favorite book. He has read it a few times and I think soon he’ll read it with Zeke!

ENDURANCE: SHACKLETON’S INCREDIBLE VOYAGE 

Jesse has been listening to this podcast but wants to remind you that it is not always appropriate…meaning there is foul language!

ARMCHAIR EXPERT WITH DAX SHEPARD

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SHOW NOTES 007 ANNA LEBARON part 1 & 2

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Check out Part 2 here!

This week you are in for a treat! First of all its a two part episode, because Jesse said it was a bad idea to put out an episode that was almost 2 hours longs. BUT I am SO excited for you to listen. Anna and I just couldn’t stop talking and like a true coffee time with my friends, we just lost track of time and kept chatting.

Anna is the author of THE POLYGAMIST DAUGHTER her real life story of being raised in a polygamist cult and how she broke free, found Christ and has found freedom in all of that. Anna is a mover and shaker and she dropped some TRUTH for us today. I really don’t think I’ll ever look at an apple seed the same way.

Anna is also known in the book world as a well known Book Launcher, and she tells us all about how that started and how her side hustle has become her main hustle. She is so persistent and strong and I am in awe of her.

I loved talking with her about EVERYTHING from counseling, to diet books, to CrossFit, Christ, books and everything in between. This was a TRUE Coffee Time with my friend and I hope you love it!

Links/ Recommendations

Levels of Change by Bob Hamp

Experiencing God by Henry Blackaby

Breaking Free and Believing God by Beth Moore

Sound of Gravel by Ruth Warnier

Leah Remini: Scientology and the Aftermath is the show she said she was obsessed with and I am going to watch it soon!!

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www.AnnaLeBaron.com

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SHOW NOTES BONUS EPISODE RISE RECAP

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Alright…Here it is!

I am so excited to share my first BONUS episode, this one is all about my take aways from the RISE Women conference I went to earlier this month in LA. It was a GREAT event, and I really learned so so much! Some of the questions I answer in this episode are…

What is RISE?! What were my expectations going into it this year? What were my top 5 takeaways? Why did I go? What was my ONE word from the final day? Will I go next year?

So, friend…Grab your cup and lets find out!!

PEOPLE YOU SHOULD CHECK OUT!

Rachel Hollis Hostess and Speaker and New York TIMES BEST SELLING AUTHOR

Dave Hollis Husband of the year, speaker and Ally

Toi Sweeney My girl Toi, Branding expert, style guru and my friend

Jen Hatmaker Author, Speaker, fun as can be! I love when I get to talk to her

Elyse Snipes her podcast Trailer Cast  Licensed therapist, podcaster, and SOLID speaker!

Mica May of May Designs I LOVE her story and her as a person! She is SO inspirational!

Landyn Hutchinson of Living With Landyn

Anna Todd New York Times Best Selling Author

Elizabeth Lascaze Manager at Deloitte Consulting

 

I really hope you enjoyed todays Bonus episode!

I hope that you heard my heart and want to keep chasing this dream with me!

And please share It’s Time For Coffee with a friend! The more the merrier!!

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SHOW NOTES INTRO JULIANNA WELLS

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To kick off this new adventure of Podcasting I though it would be a great idea for me to introduce myself to all my new and old friends. Well its super weird to interview yourself. So I did what any sane person would do…I enlisted my best friend, Julianna Wells, to step out of her comfort zone and into the studio (my dining room table).

In this episode Julianna asks me about my family, we talk about traveling together, and how we are pretty much twins…I mean look at us…totally twins!img_3950

And really to the point of this whole episode we talk about my heart about starting this podcast. A little hint…Its about YOU! Making friends, encouraging one another and knowing that we are all in this together…and really and truly we are better together.

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The adventures of Tiny and Poppy

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In Vegas for our 30th Birthday

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I really am so excited for this new adventure. It’s always been a dream of mine to talk for a living…

So Grab your cup fill it up with whatever you want…

It’s Time for Coffee!

 

Links/ Recommendations

Valley of Fire where we explored and had a blast outside of Las Vegas

Julianna is just finishing DARING TO HOPE by Katie Davis Majors…Talk about good book!!

She also mentioned watching The Crown (on Netflix) and Victoria on PBS

The song she mentioned that she couldn’t think of the name is SPIRIT MOVE by Bethel Music

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SHOW NOTES 001 EBBY ISBILL

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I LOVED getting to talk with my real life friend Ebby, meaning she is a friend of mine who I used to see on a daily basis. She is one of the funniest people I know and she has a heart of gold.

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Ebby is the wife to Brent, and mom to her three awesome kids. We got a chance to talk about her parenting style and how she is doing such a great job at raising fearless kids. Ebby tells me a little bit about their plans for the future, planting a church and how they are in the thick of learning all the things about that in a church residency program.

About three years ago Ebby was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis, she tells us about that diagnosis as well as what the Lord taught her in that time.

I mention that Ebby is a thrift shop queen, and I am not kidding…She always finds the best stuff, and I love learning her ways.

This girl is so special to me and her joy and friendship have brought so much to my life!

Links/ Recommendations

Ebby has been listening to a lot of Andy Stanley Podcasts and really liking them!

She has also started this Renaissance Periodization   meal program and says she’s eating more than she ever has and is dropping weight. You can check out this IG page to get more info on that!

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I’ve Been Dreaming Some Big Dreams

“All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue it.”

-Walt Disney

I’ve been pretty quiet on the blog lately and there’s a really good reason. I’ve been keeping a secret and it’s hard to share your heart when you are holding things back. So friend, lean in…let me tell you some stories.

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When I was a kid in school all my report cards came back, “Great student, but she Talks a lot”. It didn’t matter where I was moved in class I made friends everywhere. And then there was one time when I was technically an adult and I was at a store with one of my friends and I saw someone I knew so I stopped and chatted and then kept going. My friend chuckled and said, “You know everyone.” At that point I just assumed it was because I grew up in the area and it’s a small town. But that thought process changed when the same thing happened here in Texas, we hadn’t been here that long. So I think that debunked that theory and it had me thinking….I am a pretty friendly person, I enjoy making new friends, and keeping them and I don’t think I’ve ever met a stranger.

So the end of 2017 had me thinking…If I could do anything, dream big dreams, and have fun…what would I do?

Talk, and make new friends. Ok, well what does that look like…Blogging, I’ve gotten to talk and meet lots of new people. I love social media and have made some super awesome instagram friends. 

So what’s next?!

PODCAST!!!

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I am thrilled to announce the launch of my podcast…

IT’S TIME FOR COFFEE

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My favorite time of the week is the time I get to sit with my friends over coffee, wine, margaritas….really any beverage will do, the company is what matters.

I love the time when I get to sit and listen, to encourage and build one another up. To hear about what they are doing in their lives, what happened in the past and how they are growing in the Lord in it. I want to hear it all. I want to be their cheerleader and there are times when I need a good cheerleader! So here is where IT’S TIME FOR COFFEE came in, I want to do this with new and old friends! I have already had the awesome opportunity of meeting new people that have changed my perspective. I hope that you will join me for the exciting launch of my Podcast, Monday April 2nd.. which just happens to be my birthday too!! But really it’s just the first monday of the month! I am so excited to share this with you! I have high hopes for this new adventure of mine and I cannot wait to introduce you to some new friends!

Happy New Year 2018

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!

I cannot wait to see what 2018 and the Lord have in store for me, my family and here on my little corner of the internet! I have some big goals and a road map in place to get me there, now I need to be brave enough to take the necessary steps.

2017 was a fun year in our house:

Jesse and I went skydiving for my birthday

We went to Disneyland for spring break and got to visit our California family

Tent Camped and the quickly upgraded our tent to “Poppy” Pop-Up Camper

I went to RISE with my Cousin Melissa, and saw my hero Rachel Hollis

Got a matching tattoo with Melissa

Jesse and I ran away to Disney World ALONE

Zoe got Sister Locs and all my hair woes are now GONE

My sister Michelle visited before moving to Germany

DISNEY WORLD as a family, where we basically moved there

Visited the Wizarding World of Harry Potter with the kids!

Loved all things Summer: swimming, Schlitterbahn, TBARMcamps, beach trip, and lake trip

I started blogging more

We hung out with friends, and really dove into our community

We dated more and communicated better

Built furniture and rearranged our house

Wore matching Christmas Jammies

And rested like it was our J-O-B

So here are some of my resolutions, goals, oh I don’t know what to call them but here is what I am striving for in 2018:

Do my 5 minute journal EVERYDAY

Drink more water than coffee

Read my Bible daily

Write more

Be Present with my fam = less time scrolling on my phone

Slow to anger and Quick to Love

To work out because I am ABLE to move my body and because I enjoy it

I find that having something to narrow your focus, to hone in on improving yourself, you need a very specific idea. No fluff around it or extra stuff to get caught up in. This year I picked a word that I could focus on. A single word that will help me remember who I want to be and where I want 2018 so lead me. My word for the year is COURAGE. I want to stop worrying about what others think of me and that takes Courage. I want to speak to women and share what the Lord has done and that takes Courage. I want to love my kids and husband with all that I am even when I feel like I have nothing left to give, and for me, you guessed it takes Courage. So this year that’s what I’ll be focusing on being brave, and courageous!

What about you? What are your goals? Do you have a word? Or a focus? I want to hear it! Let’s keep each other accountable this year!

How my life changed with 2 friends, a book and the gym!

I am a HUGE fan of women’s bible studies, and as I admitted in my 10 Things you don’t know about me I have just this week finished and completed my first Bible study book ever! My Pastor Dad and Bible Study leading mother are so proud I am sure.

Anyway, I love the idea of gathering together, growing, stretching and making new friends. When I moved to Texas from Alaska 5 years ago I was super lonely. I knew one other family and that was it. We left our home, our family, and our church just like we believed God had told us to, and we were here in Texas alone. One day, in a mess of emotions, I told my Jesse just how low I was feeling. There had been so many changes. Alaska to Texas, no family, I had just sent my first born off to kindergarten, Jesse was working a new schedule that we weren’t used to, and honestly was just desperate for community. We started going to a small church, and I started at a new gym. Titus and I started going to MOPS and we joined other mommy and me groups. I was so in need of friendship. I know that I function better when I’m connected to others. The gym of all places was where I found those people who I would soon call friends.

There was this crazy pretty blonde that taught most of the classes that I was able to go to. As I began to get into the routine I got to know some more of the people around me, and the pretty blonde, her name is Lindsay, and I started to talk a little and she invited me to a Bible study that she led right there in the gym. After Wednesday’s body pump or cycle class we would meet in the childcare room, sit on the floor, and she would lead a small group of sweaty women. That group quickly became my friends. It was beautiful and so real. There was one day when I was loading  Titus into the car and caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror, “WOAH!” I thought, “I look rough! How in the world have I made friends looking like this?!” That’s when I knew these people were solid. Then one day standing over a cycle bike one of these sweet girls, Holly, handed me a book, “Read this! Jeanette, it’ll change your life!” I giggled, I love to read but how could a book change my life?!

The beautiful blonde you see is OBVIOUSLY Lindsay and That lovely lady with the beautiful smile is Holly. Who would’ve thought that God could change my life with two friends and a gym membership!?!

I dove into the book, Kisses From Katie, head first. I was reading, devouring this young girl’s story and about half way through the book I shut it and looked up at Jesse and I quote, “Jesse, I think we need to adopt or like sponsor a 100 children in Africa.” He calmly told me to, in his words, “pump the brakes,” finish the book and see how it ends. But I felt that quiet tug. The Lord whispered, “I called you to be a mom. There are a TON of babies with no mom. What are you going to do about it?!” Let me rewind a bit here and tell you that when I was little and was asked what I wanted to be when I grow up I would answer very firmly, ” A mom.”
So, Jesse and I talked a little bit more and he told me he’d pray about it. Classic husband just trying to appease his wife. A few days later he looked at me and said, “A girl right?! What would we name her?”

BOOM there it was. We jumped into this world of adoption.

Ok now back to the bible study, the girls in that group were some of the first people I told about this new venture. They were the first ones praying for her, and in Bible study we were going through the Hebrews 11 “Hall of Faith.” Lindsay would dive into each of the hero’s listed story. Over and over in Hebrews 11 it is said “By Faith that ____” and so often these heros of the bible- Sarah, Abraham, Enoch, Noah- followed the Lord blindly doing the craziest things. So often they didn’t even get to see His finished work. Noah built the ark, a boat that he had no idea what that even was and he followed God’s CRAZY specific instructions for like 100 years all by faith.

As we went through this I was so glad that God was calling me to something easy and short. I really can’t help but laugh. From the time we said YES we will adopt, to the day Zoe was actually in America and in my arms was almost 3 years. Now that’s not as long as some others waited and by far not the longest process I’ve ever heard of, but it was long and grueling and hard.

 By Faith, I believed the Lord called me to this.

 By Faith I knew he wouldn’t fail me.

 By Faith I knew that He had a better plan for this little girl I would get to call my own.

After the Bible study had ended and changed, as seasons do, those girls were still my go to people. And near the end of our process when circumstances were hard and my faith weary it was that group that stood by my side. It was them that held my weak arms up and wouldn’t let me give in. They said, “We are with you to the end” and they were. And they still are!

We have some beautiful photos that were taken at the airport and it was a freaking party. Zoe can and will tell you now that she came home sad, and confused, BUT she will also tell you there were a lot of people there to celebrate her homecoming. That is because it wasn’t just my victory or my family’s victory it was all of ours, Zoe was an orphan no more!! That group had expanded my heart, and my reach. Those women cried with me, and prayed, and gave, and connected me with new people. And my favorite part is that it all started on the floor of a child care room in a gym. In a place where we sat, with little to no makeup, and we were real and open with each other. That, guys, is the key. Be real. Be honest. Be open. Be a friend.

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This is only half the people! That was a party!! I love looking back at these faces. I see so much JOY!!

Where can you be real today? How can you meet a friend right where she is? What can you do to open yourself up now to find community? I know that it’s not easy and I know that it’s terrifying to walk into new places and not know anyone, but what if today you were just a little bit braver? What could that look like? Let’s be bold and full of faith together!

I started using the gym to Punish myself not Push myself…

Today as I write this it is Monday. As I got up and got ready for the gym this morning, I felt the weight of the weekend on me. I felt sluggish, heavy, and full. Over the weekend we had a family pizza night, tacos, and more tacos. All. The. Tacos. We had dinner and drinks with friends and while it was all super fun and much needed, I could tell this morning I had overdone it. None of these things are necessarily bad, but what is bad, is this: I was emotional all weekend. My heart was heavy so I ate and drank my feelings and in doing that, I over did it!

Walking into the gym this morning was pretty much the same as it is every morning, but today I had the added pressure of knowing that I over snacked, over dipped and over sipped all weekend, and that pressure was telling me that I needed to work harder, run faster and basically punish myself for my bad decision making. But that’s not the relationship I want to have with the gym.

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Looking happy or pretty while lifting is NOT ALLOWED! Only serious CrossFitters here!

 Punishing my body doesn’t sound fun. It sounds hurtful, and full of shame. Here are reasons why I love going to the gym: I have awesome friends that I get to workout with. I can work hard and surprise myself with lifting heavy weights. I am a healthier and fitter me because of the gym. Going to the gym makes me happy, and as the ever famous Elle Woods once said, “Exercise gives you endorphines, endorphines make you happy, and happy people don’t kill their husbands. They just don’t!” Thank you Legally Blonde for always speaking truth to me!8f14ffc1ea8f3c41afafd5f8f724eee8--moment-quotes-movie-quotes

So as I finished my workout today I thought, “I don’t want to punish myself I want to push myself mentally.” How do we as women, moms, wives, and friends combat this feeling of punishment when we know we’ve slipped up?! Well, I am not a fitness blogger, and no one ever comes to me for this sort of advice so I went to someone who is smarter than me. Kelsey Flanagan is kind, wise, helpful and as sweet as can be. She is passionate in helping people in all walks of life to create a happier and healthier versions of themselves.

So here are Kelsey’s thoughts below…..

The relationship with most people and gyms can be unhealthy. But we can get in control of that.

How? Think about your relationship with food or anything you cling too. If you want to see a change you will first have to be AWARE of the emotion you have attached to that “thing” whether it’s gym, food, family, drugs, alcohol.  The first step is awareness.

Once you have recognized that – you then should ask yourself

“Why?” Why do I do what I do? Why do I love the gym? Why do I go to the gym? Once you have some reason and why you will start to see the pattern. Whether it’s because you feel good when you leave, you want to be stronger,  you get the spend time with your friends, you finally get an hour to yourself, or you want to work off the cupcakes you had. All of these reasons are pretty positive except that last one. So now, ask yourself  “Why do I do that to myself? What about that action don’t I like?”

It’s the question game. Ask until you finally root to the problem then come up with a solution. I have struggled with an unhealthy relationship with food so this speaks to me. I’ve taken these steps below to step back and recognize what I was actually doing. Try it out and see what you come up with.

Step 1. Awareness (Journal feelings & shifts you’d like to see and notice)

Step 2. Ask yourself open ended questions

Step 3. Recognize the root issues

Step 4. Come up with ideas for a solution

Step 5. Find 1 thing that can make your relationship with the gym just a little bit better.

Whether that is: Shifting your motivation more positive. –Giving yourself the permission to forget and forgive yourself for your actions. –Working hard everyday at the gym instead of those days you “need” to.  –Writing down your reasons why you go to the gym everyday. –Taking the time to be more mindful of the decisions and what caused them.

Understanding your WHY is something we often forget about. I’ve been doing more gratitude and asking myself, “why am I doing what I’m doing”, and “how is that working for me?” These 2 questions always lead me back to my Why. My Why is to have the energy to give the help, love, and ears people desire the most. The gym gives me energy it’s my happy place, but hasn’t always been.

Why do you go to the gym everyday or on the days you “should”? An hour to prove to yourself that you are strong, worthy, and amazing… Or. An hour to punish yourself for the decisions you’ve made… When you are aware of the different mindsets you will be able to distinguish a trend and become more aware. Appreciate your hour.

So now here I am really thinking through these things. I love going to the gym, because I know it makes me a healthier mom, a happier mom, but over all a happy and healthier me. I love the way the gym makes me feel. I feel stronger, happier, and even sexier when I go into the gym with the mentality of “getting to go” vs “having to go.” I don’t NEED to go to the gym, I get to go! I don’t NEED to punish my body. My body has already proven itself to me I am stronger than I think both mentally and physically. I like my body and sure I should watch what I eat and treat it kindly but I will now be mindful of my Whys and my actions!

I am just so thankful for Kelsey and her wisdom. She was so kind to sit with me and talk this out. As the weekends come I know that I will be thinking more and more about this and really examining my actions!

Kelsey can be found at Be Fitness Happy or you can email her at Befitnesshappy@gmail.com and while you are at it check her out on Instagram too Here!.

Alright friends, go be mindful and think about you WHYS, why are you stuffing that cupcake in your mouth? Why are you drinking that extra glass of wine? What about that extra mile or _____fill in the blank_____. If its not inline with your Why let’s ask some of those questions!