SHOW NOTES 005 JENNY NUCCIO

 

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Jenny is a Texas girl married to an Alaskan, but they met….in KENYA! Her husband went to high school with my husband and we got the chance to meet a couple years ago when they were back in the states touring churches and raising funds for all the awesome work they get to do in Mombasa, Kenya.

She is the founder of Imani Collective. She tells me all about how this collective started and how God has grown it, changed it and opened so many doors, and that it is coming up on it’s 5th birthday.

She is a mom to her sweet son Jaden and is excited to welcome their daughter into the world this summer!

When I think of Jenny I think of adventure! She is daring and creative with mad leadership skills. Her family has an open door policy to all their community, but she tells us about how they are able to find boundaries in that, too.

I hope that you will enjoy this conversation, Jenny is so inspiring and shows me that I can serve, and bloom right where God has placed me!

LINKS/ RECOMMENDATION

Simon Sinek TEDtalk

CHASING SLOW by Erin Loechner

 

CONNECT WITH JENNY

WEBSITE

Imani CollectiveJennyNuccio.com

IG

Imani CollectiveJenny Nuccio

FACEBOOK

Imani on FB

Connect With ME

www.jeanettetapley.com

IG @jeanettetapley

FB @thejeanettetapley

SHOW NOTES 003 KITCHSY COUNTDOWN GIRLS KELSEY A. & KELSEY B.

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Talking to Kelsey B and Kesley A was seriously like sitting down with old friends. I have listened to their podcast THE KITCHSY KOUNTDOWN  for a few months and have really enjoyed it. So talking to them was a little bit like talking to celebrities and then like I said talking to two old friends. They are so delightful and I really just love their passion for friendship and bringing out the best in each one of us.

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I feel like we talked about everything from how long they have been friends, babies and how they started their podcast. They also told me that they are reading WHY I HATE GREEN BEANS for their Book Club. I hope that you will go check these girls out. They are so fun and full wisdom and I cannot wait to meet them in real life!!

Links/ Recommendations

Nut Pods

**I actually got this while on our spring break vacation and LOVED IT!! I can’t wait to try more flavors!**

GIRL WASH YOUR FACE by Rachel Hollis

WHY I HATE GREEN BEANS by Lincee Ray

Hidden Figures the Movie

Podcast we talked about:

POPCAST with Knox and JamieTHE BIBLE BINGEHAPPY HOUR with Jamie IveyDAIS with Rachel HollisTHE NEXT RIGHT THING with Emily P Freeman

Connect with KITCHSY KOUNTDOWN

Website

THE KITCHSY COUNTDOWN

Instagram

@kitchsykountdown

Facebook

The Kitschy Kountdown

Connect With ME

Website

www.jeanettetapley.com

INSTAGRAM

@jeanettetapley

FACEBOOK

@thejeanettetapley

SHOW NOTES 001 EBBY ISBILL

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I LOVED getting to talk with my real life friend Ebby, meaning she is a friend of mine who I used to see on a daily basis. She is one of the funniest people I know and she has a heart of gold.

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Ebby is the wife to Brent, and mom to her three awesome kids. We got a chance to talk about her parenting style and how she is doing such a great job at raising fearless kids. Ebby tells me a little bit about their plans for the future, planting a church and how they are in the thick of learning all the things about that in a church residency program.

About three years ago Ebby was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis, she tells us about that diagnosis as well as what the Lord taught her in that time.

I mention that Ebby is a thrift shop queen, and I am not kidding…She always finds the best stuff, and I love learning her ways.

This girl is so special to me and her joy and friendship have brought so much to my life!

Links/ Recommendations

Ebby has been listening to a lot of Andy Stanley Podcasts and really liking them!

She has also started this Renaissance Periodization   meal program and says she’s eating more than she ever has and is dropping weight. You can check out this IG page to get more info on that!

CONNECT WITH EBBY

INSTAGRAM

@ebbyisbill

WEBSITE
ebbyisbill.wordpress.com

CONNECT WITH ME

WEBSITE

jeanettetapley.com

INSTAGRAM

@jeanettetapley

FACEBOOK

@thejeanettetapley

I’ve Been Dreaming Some Big Dreams

“All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue it.”

-Walt Disney

I’ve been pretty quiet on the blog lately and there’s a really good reason. I’ve been keeping a secret and it’s hard to share your heart when you are holding things back. So friend, lean in…let me tell you some stories.

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When I was a kid in school all my report cards came back, “Great student, but she Talks a lot”. It didn’t matter where I was moved in class I made friends everywhere. And then there was one time when I was technically an adult and I was at a store with one of my friends and I saw someone I knew so I stopped and chatted and then kept going. My friend chuckled and said, “You know everyone.” At that point I just assumed it was because I grew up in the area and it’s a small town. But that thought process changed when the same thing happened here in Texas, we hadn’t been here that long. So I think that debunked that theory and it had me thinking….I am a pretty friendly person, I enjoy making new friends, and keeping them and I don’t think I’ve ever met a stranger.

So the end of 2017 had me thinking…If I could do anything, dream big dreams, and have fun…what would I do?

Talk, and make new friends. Ok, well what does that look like…Blogging, I’ve gotten to talk and meet lots of new people. I love social media and have made some super awesome instagram friends. 

So what’s next?!

PODCAST!!!

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I am thrilled to announce the launch of my podcast…

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My favorite time of the week is the time I get to sit with my friends over coffee, wine, margaritas….really any beverage will do, the company is what matters.

I love the time when I get to sit and listen, to encourage and build one another up. To hear about what they are doing in their lives, what happened in the past and how they are growing in the Lord in it. I want to hear it all. I want to be their cheerleader and there are times when I need a good cheerleader! So here is where IT’S TIME FOR COFFEE came in, I want to do this with new and old friends! I have already had the awesome opportunity of meeting new people that have changed my perspective. I hope that you will join me for the exciting launch of my Podcast, Monday April 2nd.. which just happens to be my birthday too!! But really it’s just the first monday of the month! I am so excited to share this with you! I have high hopes for this new adventure of mine and I cannot wait to introduce you to some new friends!

Books I ALWAYS recommend

I get asked a lot for book recommendations, and it’s probably one of my favorite questions to answer and give out! So I thought I would tell y’all a list of the ones I always recommend. Sometimes I give based on what I’ve recently read and loved, but for the most part, I start with these few books…

Redeeming Love by Francine Rivers– This is my all time favorite book in the entire world. I read it when I was a senior in high school and again when Titus was maybe a year old. I don’t love reading books twice because I have a long list of books I want to read. so I don’t want to spend time reading something I’ve already read. This book is my exception to that. This book so well written, a beautiful period piece and love story.

I am a firm believer that everything Francine writes is gold! I loved the Mark of The Lion series (3 books) and Marta’s Legacy (a 2 book series) and really anything else. You can’t go wrong.

Love Does by Bob Goff– I am almost certain that no one tells a story quite like Bob. He’s funny, adventurous and he used to set up office on Tom Sawyer island at DisneyLand. He’s a man that I truly believe is teaching generations to come what love looks like. In Love Does he writes about his journey to faith, his family, his career, and so much more. I cannot say enough good things about this book! He has a new book coming out in April and I CANNOT WAIT!!

Kisses From Katie by Katie Davis– Now her name is Katie Davis Majors and I feel like I mention this book in almost every blog, but to me this was a game changer. I love her story, I love her heart and I love that it was shared in this way! I just finished her latest book Daring to Hope and it was great too. But honestly I don’t know that anything she writes will ever compare in my heart to her first book.

Switching gears a bit…

On the Island by Tracey Garvis Graves– This book is captivating! I read it all in one day and it was just GOOD! It’s got some romance but not R rated or anything, and it’s a sweet love story. I think it would be the best beach read, or great for traveling.

I’ve read just about everything Tracey Garvis Graves has put out, and they are all good. Some are definitely a little saucier, but all great reads.

What Alice Forgot by Liane Moriarty– I read this book while on a vacation with my cousin. It is so funny because we both read it, and we both LOVED it, but we also saw the ending very differently. I couldn’t fathom the idea of losing my memory, but that last thing she remembers is that she was pregnant at the gym happily married, and the next thing she knows she has a 10 year old and in the middle of a divorce. The book walks through how much our lives can change in ten years and that alone was phenomenal!

I haven’t read everything Liane has written and while I LOVED Big Little Lies, she has another one that I just couldn’t get into, so I set it down.

Harry Potter by J.K Rowling- I would be a lying liar if i didn’t add these books to this list! I didn’t read Potter until I was about 28, and I don’t even have the words to express! The magical world that J.K Rowling created is beautiful. Her books are much more than the magic within the pages but speak of love, hope, discrimination, light and dark….all of it! It’s just pure magic. ALSO if you are not an avid reader but want to read the books, these are the best audiobooks I’ve ever heard.

I think I’ll end there. I do have some more, but I don’t want to bore you. Let me know what you love and if you’d like some kid suggestions I can do that too!!

My little reader. He is so much like me. Loves to read and devours series! I love that we have this shared interest!

Wait…I am adopted?!

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My Dad and Me! 

As November ends so does the #adoptionawarenessmonth movement. This movement is so meaningful for my family and I, and I love getting to be a part of it. To see friends change their profile pictures and share their stories about how adoption has changed their lives is so special.

My view of adoption drastically changed when we started the process of adopting Zoe. I had so many questions; Would we love her the same as the boys? Would she be treated differently by our family members? Would she feel different? How would our families react to this new family member?

In an early conversation with my little sister Kim, I was expressing a few of these to her and I said, “Kim, no one in our family has done this before. How will I know that she’s going to be accepted and loved the same?” In her young wise voice she said, “Jeanette, you know that we are basically adopted right? You do remember that Denver (Dad) is not our biological dad, right?”

You see my biological dad, Jim, passed away when I was just four years old. Denver, my “stepdad” came into my life and never left. He became our Dad when I was six. His siblings and mother didn’t blink an eye at him marrying a widow with three young girls. He loved my mom and showed it best by loving her girls, my big sister Michelle, Me, and Kimberly. 

I often forget that this is our story, that a man who is not my own flesh and blood loves me so deeply and for that I am so thankful. It is by his example that I knew I could walk this road and love this little girl as deeply as he loved me. So no, I wasn’t the trailblazer in my family. My dad was, and he did it so well.

Adoption comes from hurt, brokenness, and often death. It never starts as a pretty thing, but it can change the world. I know Zoe’s world looks a lot different, and I know that my own life looks a lot different that what it could’ve. I am so thankful that Lord doesn’t leave us fatherless and alone. He cares and He makes a way. I have seen it in my daughter’s eyes and in the way that I see my own Dad. Love makes a family!

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Our Family *missing my brother Norman* 

I started using the gym to Punish myself not Push myself…

Today as I write this it is Monday. As I got up and got ready for the gym this morning, I felt the weight of the weekend on me. I felt sluggish, heavy, and full. Over the weekend we had a family pizza night, tacos, and more tacos. All. The. Tacos. We had dinner and drinks with friends and while it was all super fun and much needed, I could tell this morning I had overdone it. None of these things are necessarily bad, but what is bad, is this: I was emotional all weekend. My heart was heavy so I ate and drank my feelings and in doing that, I over did it!

Walking into the gym this morning was pretty much the same as it is every morning, but today I had the added pressure of knowing that I over snacked, over dipped and over sipped all weekend, and that pressure was telling me that I needed to work harder, run faster and basically punish myself for my bad decision making. But that’s not the relationship I want to have with the gym.

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Looking happy or pretty while lifting is NOT ALLOWED! Only serious CrossFitters here!

 Punishing my body doesn’t sound fun. It sounds hurtful, and full of shame. Here are reasons why I love going to the gym: I have awesome friends that I get to workout with. I can work hard and surprise myself with lifting heavy weights. I am a healthier and fitter me because of the gym. Going to the gym makes me happy, and as the ever famous Elle Woods once said, “Exercise gives you endorphines, endorphines make you happy, and happy people don’t kill their husbands. They just don’t!” Thank you Legally Blonde for always speaking truth to me!8f14ffc1ea8f3c41afafd5f8f724eee8--moment-quotes-movie-quotes

So as I finished my workout today I thought, “I don’t want to punish myself I want to push myself mentally.” How do we as women, moms, wives, and friends combat this feeling of punishment when we know we’ve slipped up?! Well, I am not a fitness blogger, and no one ever comes to me for this sort of advice so I went to someone who is smarter than me. Kelsey Flanagan is kind, wise, helpful and as sweet as can be. She is passionate in helping people in all walks of life to create a happier and healthier versions of themselves.

So here are Kelsey’s thoughts below…..

The relationship with most people and gyms can be unhealthy. But we can get in control of that.

How? Think about your relationship with food or anything you cling too. If you want to see a change you will first have to be AWARE of the emotion you have attached to that “thing” whether it’s gym, food, family, drugs, alcohol.  The first step is awareness.

Once you have recognized that – you then should ask yourself

“Why?” Why do I do what I do? Why do I love the gym? Why do I go to the gym? Once you have some reason and why you will start to see the pattern. Whether it’s because you feel good when you leave, you want to be stronger,  you get the spend time with your friends, you finally get an hour to yourself, or you want to work off the cupcakes you had. All of these reasons are pretty positive except that last one. So now, ask yourself  “Why do I do that to myself? What about that action don’t I like?”

It’s the question game. Ask until you finally root to the problem then come up with a solution. I have struggled with an unhealthy relationship with food so this speaks to me. I’ve taken these steps below to step back and recognize what I was actually doing. Try it out and see what you come up with.

Step 1. Awareness (Journal feelings & shifts you’d like to see and notice)

Step 2. Ask yourself open ended questions

Step 3. Recognize the root issues

Step 4. Come up with ideas for a solution

Step 5. Find 1 thing that can make your relationship with the gym just a little bit better.

Whether that is: Shifting your motivation more positive. –Giving yourself the permission to forget and forgive yourself for your actions. –Working hard everyday at the gym instead of those days you “need” to.  –Writing down your reasons why you go to the gym everyday. –Taking the time to be more mindful of the decisions and what caused them.

Understanding your WHY is something we often forget about. I’ve been doing more gratitude and asking myself, “why am I doing what I’m doing”, and “how is that working for me?” These 2 questions always lead me back to my Why. My Why is to have the energy to give the help, love, and ears people desire the most. The gym gives me energy it’s my happy place, but hasn’t always been.

Why do you go to the gym everyday or on the days you “should”? An hour to prove to yourself that you are strong, worthy, and amazing… Or. An hour to punish yourself for the decisions you’ve made… When you are aware of the different mindsets you will be able to distinguish a trend and become more aware. Appreciate your hour.

So now here I am really thinking through these things. I love going to the gym, because I know it makes me a healthier mom, a happier mom, but over all a happy and healthier me. I love the way the gym makes me feel. I feel stronger, happier, and even sexier when I go into the gym with the mentality of “getting to go” vs “having to go.” I don’t NEED to go to the gym, I get to go! I don’t NEED to punish my body. My body has already proven itself to me I am stronger than I think both mentally and physically. I like my body and sure I should watch what I eat and treat it kindly but I will now be mindful of my Whys and my actions!

I am just so thankful for Kelsey and her wisdom. She was so kind to sit with me and talk this out. As the weekends come I know that I will be thinking more and more about this and really examining my actions!

Kelsey can be found at Be Fitness Happy or you can email her at Befitnesshappy@gmail.com and while you are at it check her out on Instagram too Here!.

Alright friends, go be mindful and think about you WHYS, why are you stuffing that cupcake in your mouth? Why are you drinking that extra glass of wine? What about that extra mile or _____fill in the blank_____. If its not inline with your Why let’s ask some of those questions!