How do I make friends as an adult?!

We believe friendship matters, right?!

But like...HOW DO WE MAKE FRIENDS AS ADULTS?! It’s not as easy as it was in elementary school, high school, or in a sorority where you are placed with people around you and told, these are your people now…

Now we are living full lives, running kids around, we have their schedules, our work schedules, nap times, and really where do we fit in making new friends?!Let me give you my best advice…

👋🏽Look up.

You know when you get to the gym and you don't know anyone so you pick up your phone because HEAVEN HELP US, we might feel alone or like we don't know anyone. Put your phone down and lookup. Who have you seen here before? Who did you see dropping their kid off at the child care at the same time (psst...you have kids the same age...something in common, another thing, you chose this same gym class. Another thing to bond over.) If you are new to this space, be brave and speak up, ask someone around you a question, or for help. Don’t be afraid to speak up and say hello!

🥳Send the invitation!

Would you like to have coffee with someone...then ask them out! We don't need to make it weird or overcomplicate it. Just sent the text and asked them for coffee. And actually set it up. Get a time and a place on the calendar and for goodness sake do not flake!

🍪Hostess with the mostest….or just host.

Ask people over. Whether it's a Bible Study, book club, wine night, or pool party invite others into your home. Be a place where others can connect! One of the first ways I got to know new friends was when I was invited to a cookie exchange. It was a great and safe place to meet new friends and connect over a shared love...cookies! By being a place where others connect you will connect as well!

💛Say Yes.

Want to make a new friend, be ready and willing to go when you are invited. If there’s a hang-up with childcare or you can't go ask to share a sitter, speak up, or reschedule. Be willing to communicate.

🙌🏼Pray.

If you are in need of a friend I'd love to challenge you to pray and ask the Lord to show you a new friend.

Steal the pray from this post!

😍and lastly...Be kind. Be you. Be a good friend!